The most important principle in opening is to follow the “3-seconds rule” at all times. This basically means as soon as you see a woman you want to meet, within 3 SECONDS you move in and open her. This has two very powerful benefits: In 3 seconds you don’t have time to get nervous. Most guys hesitate and talk themselves out of opening a woman because their insecurities take over. Even if they actually manage to kick their own asses to go and approach, by that time they’re so nervous from over-thinking it that they’ll probably blow the interaction. If you approach in 3 seconds, the hard part is over before you even have a chance to make excuses, and you’ll avoid becoming sweaty, nervous, etc.
If a woman sees you hesitating to approach her, you’ll look insecure and you’ll lose value in her eyes. By moving in within 3 seconds, you look confident and show no hesitation. The downside of the 3-seconds rule is that it leaves you very little time to think of an opener. This is why it’s important to have an arsenal of all-purpose openers committed to memory (opinion openers are best for this). Another way around this is to enter a venue looking for openers rather than looking for targets. This way by the time you start looking for targets to approach, you already have an opener or two in mind that would suit the situation or venue.
Flattering Openers
Flattering openers are generally not a good idea, but they can be useful in
certain situations. NEVER compliment a 9 or 10. She gets them ALL the time, and by NOT giving them, the girl will feel the LACK of attention (a self-esteem thing) and she will do things to TRY to elicit a favourable response from you (which means she is now chasing YOU).
“You’re kinda cute”
“Is it hot in/out here or is it just you?”
“You’re so sexy they should rename you DAMN.”
“You’d look good on my arm.”
“I like your (hair, watch, etc). (Thanks). I like your ____ also. (Thanks). Come to think about it, I like a lot about you! What’s your name?”
“If I looked as good as you, I’d stand in front of the mirror asking myself out all day. But I’d play hard to get since I don’t want to be considered too easy…”
“What are you doing here? If I looked as good as you I’d be out in some bar getting free drinks all night!”
“Where’s your paper bag?” (What??) “Your paper bag to put over your head.It’s dangerous for someone like you to be out in public with all these horny people around. Don’t worry, I’LL protect you!” (put arm around her protectively)
You see a good-looking girl walking down the street from a distance. Work it out so you accidentally get right in front of her and you both have to come to a screeching halt. Then, when she says, “Excuse me,” or whatever, you say, “Oh, it’s no problem. You would have stopped me in my tracks even if you weren’t blocking my way!” For that head-on “weaving move” where people get confused and can’t get around each other: “Hey thanks for the dance!”
“You look like a classy girl…Are you friendly?”