NLP WAIT FOR DATE PATTERN: “Have you ever been waiting for someone [selfpoint]to pick you up for an evening, and all of a sudden you hear that knock on the door, and your heart leaps…You FEEL the adrenaline rushing through your body, and the closer you get to that door, the more you feel the butterflies…and then when you open the door it’s like WHAT YOU WANT THE MOST IS RIGHT HERE [self-point], RIGHT NOW, RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU.”
NEURO LINGUISTIC FASCINATION PATTERN: “I haven’t had that Butterflies feeling in a while. I mean the feeling where I get out of bed and the first thing I want to do is call her…I don’t mean sexually, I just walk into a club and I’m thinking “Ok, her, her, her [point at her], her, and her”…I get butterflies in my LOINS a lot, but not in my stomach in that puppy love way…When was the last time you were just, FASCINATED with a guy? (sp) I mean just totally taken? When he was stuck in YOU’RE MINE, and the more you try not to think about this guy the more you actually DO think of him? (sp) LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT PATTERN: “You ever wonder why you just FALL IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT? What’s it like when you JUST DO THAT? NOW, WITH ME [self-point], I think what happens is that a lot of things go on deep inside you and you’re not even aware that YOU CAN’T HELP YOURSELF. NOW, it’s kind of like a switch [make clicking noise and flick her ear up] goes on in your head and IT JUST HAPPENS…WITH ME [self-point], I think that’s just how IT HAPPENS. Kind of like a light turns on in your body and just glows, you
know?” Best used when she complains about how she can’t find a good man. Tell her “You’ll find one, he may show up any minute now!”, then talk about love at first sight and segue into this pattern.
NEURO LINGUISTIC FALLING IN LOVE pattern: “Do you remember the last time you fell madly in love? I bet I can tell you how that happened!” (her: blah blah) “You spent
time with that person [self-point] and then you went home, and you PICTURE THAT PERSON’S FACE IN YOUR MINE! [as you do this, draw a frame around your own face] Right?” (her: blah blah) “And then, maybe you IMAGINE YOURSELF in all sorts of situations with this person [self-point again] having lots of fun?”
(her: blah blah) “And then maybe you start to list all the qualities about him you really like: He’s so smart, he’s so funny, he’s so fun to be with?” [self-point] (her: blah blah) “And then, here’s the worst part…You start saying his name out loud, you start bringing it up in conversation with your friends, and maybe you even dance around the house, singing it like a goof? That’s when you know YOU’RE ABSOLUTELY HOOKED on someone [point to her solar plexus]. You know what I mean?” ROMANCE NOVEL PATTERN: “My friend was saying that for her, it’s almost like she has these categories of men…and it’s kinda funny
how in some ways, it’s almost like different types of BOOKS. Some men are like encyclopedias. They are always there…always where you can see them or know where they are… They are the standard way of looking up information. You know they will never probably be off the shelf for long. No one really ever borrows them, they are just there, and you’ll BE SECURE in the fact that it’s up there for you when you need it [motion away from you while explaining this category]. Then OTHER men are like magazines. Fun, fluff, they’re like buddies. No real content. They’re always around, show up regularly, you check them out when you want a distraction from the everyday world. [motion away from you while describing this category]. And then, there are other men…and THIS type of man [self-point] is more like a Romance Novel. You know, those books where on some level, you enjoy this, you really like to allow yourself to enter this fantasy…to have this experience [self-point]. And the thing with a romance novel is, it’s an ESCAPE. It’s something where you know that this will only be around for a while, and that’s ok [self-point]. You know that there will be a time for you to really get into this…and really let this get into you…and then you’ll let it go…and enjoy this even more [self-point]…I think the complete woman is one that embraces all of these “books”. And knows what to expect from each.” Long, but if you can get through this one and paint yourself as “the romance novel”, it could be useful.
